Cheers

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Our country has been called the melting pot, but just where do we all go to stew? Rightly because of the dichotomy of our many walks of life and the different streets we live on boarded by the same neighborhood, our common areas tend to be the place we are best to hear an honest discussion. Consider yourself lucky if your neighborhood mimics a microcosm of society as a whole. Our news media repeats horrific stories and charged headlines nationwide with a blast radius so large that some topics are unavoidable.

Support of peaceful protesters and support of police don’t have to be exclusive to each other. The narrative of the media may attempt to divide us on a few issues. It may hope to bring awareness to key issues. But we as citizens must seek to find solutions. If you hang out in a “cop bar”, you are more likely to understand the pressures their job entails on a day to day basis. If you go to a pub frequented by politicians and businessman, you will also see as they unwind, let loose, and reveal themselves with their guard down. The same goes to bars which cater to many Millenials, you can bridge gaps just by being there during moments of unguarded conversation.
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“Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy”, is one of my favorite quotes by Benjamin Franklin. A heroic figure that met in pubs with other great thinkers, our forefathers, who helped to establish this country- would discuss the conditions going on in the land and would eventually come to solutions for liberation of the people and preservation of our freedoms. Let us never be divided in this neighborhood, this city, or this great nation which we’ve inherited. Let us always feel free to discuss pressing issues, our viewpoints, and propose solutions so that we may all live a life free of tyranny, fear, and unjust accusation.

Brewing at home can polarize us, I found that the closest distance between two people is communication. Our community is also bound even tighter together when we see each other face to face and can talk about things that bother us throughout our day, include each other in our celebrations of merit, or just talk about things at the office. A beer in-betwen stories also isn’t a bad idea.

Stop and Frisk in Philadelphia is Bullshit.

Originally posted on Philly Law Blog:

Search and SeizureI was listening to my local NPR outlet this morning when a particular news story piqued my interest — the ACLU and Kairys Rudovsky Messing & Feinberg had just filed their Third Report to the Federal District Court for the Eastern District of Pennsylvania regarding the monitoring of stop and frisk practices. I said to myself: “I need to get a copy of this report right away.”

Which I did. And I read it. And I got furious.

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Generation Y not?

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Generation Y not? Instead of being labeled a generation of lazy, spoiled, and entitled people. Why not work to be labeled something greater? Why not seek to be an entire generation of people who are extremely productive, focused, or determined to bring justice and good into the world? It can’t possibly be that hard to shift our collective focus to ideas that make the world worth saving. Many parts of our society add to our miseducation. A degenerative quantity of entertainment runs rampant in our households, through our speakers and even sometimes through our personal apps on our computers and cell phones. Generation Y holds the greatest potential to focus our resource and consciousness on great feats like solar and alternative energy, universal healthcare, saving whales, addressing income inequality, discrimination, space exploration, and even ending world hunger.

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Our power relies deeply in our sheer numbers. Our collective facebook, instagram, selfie generation is about 30 % of the United States population. Our power however is often eroded by distractions like housewives, BET, Kimye’s baby, celebrity gossip, twerking, diamond chains, Sneaker releases, over-obsessions with body image, and general consumerism. In the wake of the decision not to indict Officer Darren Wilson on charges of murdering an unarmed Mike Brown in Ferguson County Missouri, I talked with a young lady while I was out who noticed I wasn’t having quite the best time “turning up”. My mind was elsewhere…in Ferguson. I told her that too often I think about these issues that go on in our country instead of blissfully partying away like I used to do. Her reply shocked me as she said, “Yeah, it’s sad but stuff happens more than often. I thought discrimination was over with after Martin Luther King, but I guess not.” In her reply, I saw the veil of social blindness caused by her miseducation.

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This selfie queen, beautiful, young, hookah smoking, mocha colored woman honestly believed that discrimination ended when Martin Luther King Jr. marched in Alabama. I did not judge her harshly, for if she is not self motivated, then where is she likely to find information concerning her generation and demographics position in the eyes of a demographic and generation that has power over hers. What does she focus her energy and attention on in her free time? How is her view of the world shaped? What influences her actions? A miseducation can surely happen by accident but a proper enlightenment must come by will. There is not a question of can we, but will we be a generation of enlightened citizens? Will we be willing to learn some basic things like the history of our origins, the importance of constantly learning, the value of financial literacy, the importance of acceptance and love we should give to ourselves, or the strength that we have when we work together.

As an avid reader, I have often read that the average American reads about a book a year, give or take 1 or 2 books. I only find fault when a person has no desire to learn or expand. Or when someone willingly doesn’t want to know more or assumes they have all the answers. Why not be a generation that’s knowledgeable and learns to cultivate the power to change the world? When we all collectively want something done, we represent an undeniable force. We can elect a candidate we believe in, we can support a business that has our best collective interest at heart, we sustain the programs that empower us with our attention, we stimulate our economy with the vote of our dollar. Or potential is limitless, but the key to unlocking the power within us is found through unplugging from things that distract us. We are a powerful generation, why not exercise our power for our advantage and the betterment of our communities, society, our nation and our planet? Generation Y not?
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Street Harassment

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Recently, the twitter-sphere has been blown up with an issue that beautiful women have to confront on a daily basis. Apparently, a gorgeous gal can’t walk down the street without being constantly harrassed by construction workers, kids, jobless losers, and other chodes that don’t have the skills or balls to learn how to properly approach a woman.
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There are many factors that add up to this happening. One, the woman is exceptionally beautiful to the point that guys know they have no chance with her, so they blurt whatever crap comes to their mind first. Not in an earnest attempt to win her heart over, but to register on her radar. The creepier the comment, the more it registers to her- but of course in a negative way. B, our cultural value on physical beauty is way too overblown. You have no idea how many hot girls you’ll run into that are just rotten people to the core. In no way should you assume that a pretty girl is a bitch right off hand, but you must be aware that everything that glitters isn’t gold. It’s more important to ask questions and make statements that have little to nothing to do with one’s physical appearance.
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Be creative and approach with the honest intent on making a connection. Guys who practice pick up come to learn that most half assed approaches are immediately rejected, do not secure a sufficient bond, or worse, do not even register on a woman’s radar. Street Harassment is a result of bad game. Like a novice car salesman who fumbles, doesn’t make enough eye contact, seems off, or pushy, or just rude – you’re not going to have a great experience. On the other hand, if you walk around a car lot and are greeted by a smiling, more experienced car salesman who makes you feel welcomed, comfortable, and listens to you, you’ll have a much better experience even if you don’t end up buying a car. And guess what, the better salesman isn’t going to be spiteful about your decision to walk away either.
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Men who are approaching women are in essence selling themselves for a future date, coffee, or family. You can meet women in night clubs where it’s more expected for you to walk over and talk, or you can meet women during the day where it’s least expected, but when done correctly is rewarded greatly. For one thing, most girls stomping around in night clubs at 2 a.m. are not the same one’s walking to their cool jobs in the morning. Typically, you are dealing with different cultures, one immersed in party, and one immersed in work and perhaps family. “Yo baby” or “Yo Ma” is lazy, bad game and should be punished with silence. It doesn’t even work at shady night clubs. Men, step your game up. Learn the simple art of picking a woman up, then practice.
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If you had or have a daughter, there will come a time when she grows up faster than you wanted or expected. She will be courted by suitors left and right. Who is the man she should give her time and attention to? How should he be? What example will you set?

Create the news, Create your horoscope – Here’s why

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Don’t watch the news, make the news. Don’t read your horoscope, create your horoscope. If you are the type of person who will believe a general platitude for a horoscope like “you’re going to meet someone interesting when you go outside. Be weary of someone from your past you’ve been trying to get away from.” Then, it’s probably best you go about creating your own spin on you life that you can live by because it’s just as easy to believe a prescription for the day written by some enthusiastic writer in his cubicle trying to meet a deadline- as it is to believe in your own prescription for your life. Have you ever met someone who wanted to confine you to the limits of a horoscope? You are not an accumulation of traits determined by what constellation you were born under.
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The next time someone asks you your sign or if you know what it entails, I dare you to run off a list of desirable traits in excess- non of which should be negative. Just make sure to add humility at the end, because you won’t sound humble, but why should you identify with any negative attributes about yourself. Let the world worry about your flaws. Many of the flaws you will have- you will not be aware of. Yet, still you must navigate through the world and attempt to operate at peak condition day in and day out. Refuse to let a summary of platitudes determine if you’re going to have a bad day or a good day- a good year or a year of suffering. It’s entirely up to you to decide if you are going to be productive or not. The universe is indifferent.

Watching the news is passive and while their will be the occasional story that is perfectly relevant to your day to day life- there is far more likely to be a barrage of stories thrown at you that are meant to scare the Ebola in to you. You can go about receiving your news this way, most people do- then again, most people do not go about creating anything significant. Fear, as it is spewed through the television, in the form of “relevant topics” paralyzes people and keeps them in the house, attached to their positions which are going nowhere, and afraid to venture out or attempt to do anything they would otherwise freely dream of doing.

You could instead make it a focus to create your news. Truly, you can submit articles, write a blog, create a video of the things you want to see in the world. Creating content is preferable to consuming it blindly. Yes, some stories will be relevant and they might not make you happy. But it’s far more important to control the things you put in front of you, filter the information you take in because it has a large effect on how you go about the day and how much you get done. When you focus on negativity around you, it becomes your reality. Too much of this focus on negative energy will have you believing that it’s the only thing out there in abundance. There’s a choice to believe that the world is positive or negative, or even indifferent.

Create the news, create your horoscope, live by the best set of rules that you can come up with. This is how you take greater control of your life. Because if you want to be successful, you have to do what unsuccessful don’t do. That is complain, believe everything they hear, focus on negativity, think their life is out of their control, and agree with the masses- often without questioning. Take control of your mind, your actions and your life. Do more creating than consuming, and when you create something, whether it’s the news or your own horoscope- make it great.

Enthusiasm : It’s hard to stop a train full of “fuck yeah”

Have you ever clearly gotten your point across to someone even though you may have been wrong?
Do you know why it’s hard to stop youthful, directed energy?

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Enthusiasm is momentum, if you put it behind nearly any goal you have a catalyst driven, run-a-way train that hopefully you have aimed towards something positive. Enthusiasm is being mentally, emotionally engaged in an activity or cause. And I mean fully engaged – excited – ready to bring something into existence even if it hasn’t been made manifest yet. Your enthusiasm is also contagious, you can spread it to other people around you to rally them towards your cause or fight. It’s quite easy to get people to do what you want them to do when you’re completely psyched on seeing it happen yourself. It’s kind of how people will believe in you because you strongly believe in yourself. They could be assuming you have evidence to be so enthusiastic that some coming event is going to happen. It doesn’t matter. Enthusiasm can be backed by accurate data, and it can be back by nothing at all- just a feeling. There in lies the rub.
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You can be just as enthusiastic about something you have evidence to support. Say, the Sun is going to come up and your quarterly reports reflect an increase in revenue for your company or department. That’s great, you should be enthusiastic about that. You can also be hell bent on seeing something happen when there’s no reason to justify it will. But enthusiasm will help to carry you through to see it happen. It’s a soft skill and a highly valued quality in people that is not taught in schools.

Operating with a lot of passion or “spirit” is the basic definition of having enthusiasm. It provides momentum for difficult tasks to be completed. All great goals you will set in your life will require you to be consistently enthusiastic about them until you have reached them. Sometimes people won’t believe in your goals, even if you’re enthusiastic about it. It could be too big for them to see, or too much for their puny little minds. Keeping yourself enthusiastic about your goals is where the magic lies. Once you show people that you simply will not give up or go away, they will yield to you.
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The whole time you were trying to corral people around your idea or service, or goal, they were waiting for you to believe in it with the utmost certainty before they could jump on the bandwagon and say they knew you were going to make it all along. There’s no reason to be upset about the band-wagon jumpers; their purpose is to reward you for never giving up. Convincing people to do something or that you are worth what you say you are takes believing in it yourself. For if you don’t believe in yourself, why should anyone else. Enthusiasm is momentum and it’s hard to stop a train full of Fuck Yeah!!

Venturing out

Among the many success guru’s I’ve reached out to and have had the privilege of learning from. I was surprised to have the words of wisdom about success delivered by Steve Harvey. After all, when I think of him, I think of a comedian. Even as a comedian I don’t think of him as a representative of my demographic, being young, hip, and new school….you know, a millennial. but I was taken by surprise at the way his advice hit so close to home for me. This must mean that it’s a universal principle and can be applied to all demographics, all backgrounds, and all peoples who are looking for success. When you are studying success, it doesn’t matter where the advice comes from, so long as it remains true in all circumstances.  
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Harvey says that in order to be successful, you must take a leap of faith. You must jump as if off a cliff in the hopes that your parachute will open and you can soar. He stresses the notion of leaping out on faith but also gives a guarantee that when you jump, your parachute will not open right away. Not the most comforting part of his advice but is surely realistic. You probably will not hit a home run your very first time at the plate in the major leagues. You probably will not return a kick off for a touchdown in the very first game of your rookie season in the NFL. So it is not likely that when you take your leap of faith (as you must) that your ability to soar will become innate. It is not likely that you have an instinct to be successful. Success is a learned behavior.
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As many people want to live their dreams, both small and large, they must put up with the fact that turning them into a reality may not happen right away. There are plenty of failures, let downs and set backs that would make your experience difficult in the beginning. What separates the successful few from the herd is the ability to press on. To move from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. To continue to venture out, to try harder, upping the bet, creating even larger goals and taking even more action than what was originally planned. When you’re tugging on that rip cord as you descend, and you bump into the sides of the cliff, then you rip and scrape your sides, as everything and everyone around you is telling you to give up, you must know that giving up is not an option. You must equate giving up and failure as a death, for you to save your own life, you must not give up, you must pull and tug and do whatever it takes to get that damn chute open.

Venturing out not only requires a leap of faith, but it also means resiliency. The ability to put up with temporary failure, and when you are success driven, it is always a temporary set back you will experience. As if you are running to a finish line and you trip and fall, you get back up, brushing off your temporary set back and continue the road as planned. Staying on the ground is not apart of the process. It is not where you will remain. Bumping into obstacles can be expected, though remaining stagnate is not an option.
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You can be afraid to launch your product, to write your book, to ask for that girls hand in marriage, to stake your claim in this world. Then, you must know that it will not be easy to be successful in these endeavors, however when you simply do not give up, in the end you will get it right. By virtue of trying nearly everything possible, you will get the right methodology, the right formula, and the right people to bring your dreams you covet so dearly in life. It takes just as much energy to have a mediocre existence as it does to have an extraordinary life. You must simply focus your attentions on the things that will bring you success, make you extraordinary, and provide you the quality of life you deserve and that you’ve risked everything else to attain. Continue to venture out and place no limits on what your success should and can look like.
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