Two friends walk into a bar. They grab stools and routinely order their beers as they’ve done many times before. The first gentleman starts talking about some business ideas, his current relationship standing and how life is going with him and his family. The other listens but breaks his attention away from time to time. Something is bothering the second man. His friend looks at him, knowing when something is ailing his old pal so he asks, “What’s up with you? How are you and that girl doing?”
The second gentleman hesitates to say anything of his problems but manages to eek out that things aren’t running as smoothly as they once were in the beginning of his now fractured relationship. The friend asks, “Well, why not? She’s super sweet.” “Yes, she is.” the man replied but still seemed unable to explain to his closest friend why he was unhappy.
His friend suggests that he tells the woman he’s been dealing with how he feels and what would make the relationship better. The second man foolishly thinks that what would make his relationship stronger would be obvious. But his friend rightly points out that expecting his woman to be a mind reader is not only impossible but if the shoe was on the other foot and partner was expecting him to just know what was wrong without telling him – that often familiar although crazy situation would not fly.
Can it be that complicated for a woman to know what drives a good man wild and what keeps him interested? Anything worth having takes some effort. Here’s a few quick pointers ladies should know when they’re hoping to land what they think is a great guy. This could be obvious to some – or not.
A woman once told me that she had been legitimately proposed to 4 times in her 36 years of living. She was pretty but there was more to her than just her physical appearance. Here are some of the reasons guys were throwing themselves at her and doing whatever they could to make her happy. For one, she kept a clean house. That’s not rocket science. She regularly cleaned her house or would spot clean if necessary. Guest always felt welcomed and felt they should keep up the standards she’d set when no one was around. She cleaned her body. She smelled sweet, like a woman – or candy. Sometimes it’s hard to tell one from the other. You wanted to taste her.
Number two, she liked to cook. Ordering out and restaurant dining can be a great experience but there’s something about the woman who can make food in the kitchen – like mom used to. It doesn’t have to be an extravagant dinner every day – but there’s emotion and thoughtfulness that goes into preparing a dinner for you and the ones you love. Cooking together is also a romantic experience and guys like to be romanced sometimes too. You do know that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, don’t you?
Third, this woman worked hard on her job to attain the things she wanted most. She wasn’t dependent on anyone else but herself. This may intimidate some men but it shouldn’t. It should serve as a motivating force for a good man to want such a hard working woman on his side. She owned her business and could afford the pleasures of life she desired. Trying to impress her with your money or status may not get you far. You’ll have to be funny, smart, and kind to stand out. Her busy schedule keeps her from spending all her money to get black-out wasted in the middle of the week. There are people depending on her.
Fourth, she worked out. Health was very important to her and at 36 she had a fit body that would carry her well into her 40’s. She hit the gym regularly and did so for herself. She had a toned, slightly muscular frame and looked built to weather the storms life would eventually throw at her and all of us. She was still physically attractive when girls 10 years younger were really into letting themselves go. Trust this – guys want a DUFF as much as girls want a SCRUB.
Lastly, she was pretty smart. Not super immersed in one particular field like a doctor or engineer would be – but as a business owner and student of life she had come to learn many things about how the world works. She took pride in trying to figure things out if she didn’t have the answer right away. She read books when she could. She asked questions, waited, and listened for the answers. Men were always after her and her choice of suitors were the creme de la creme. She wasn’t an inanimate object but she was certainly treated like a prize to be awarded to the best and brightest.
When you’re a young woman, you reach your prime quickly; but the habits you form while young are what will carry you through time. If you want to lock a guy down – do it while you’re young, while you still want to work out, while you still have an open mind and want to learn things and don’t forget the basics that have helped keep your grandfather stuck to the side of your grandmother. And what’s kept most couples together through all of time. A clean house and a cooked meal go a long way. Did I forget to mention amazing sex? There, I did! Be sexually open and curious, at least at first if you can.