As we get older, we tend to think more and more about our own mortality. During our quest to reach our goals, and as we pile more upon to balance those we’ve checked off our list – It should occur that you may not fulfill every last one. You just may run out of time – so then, during this brief period of time between your awakening and your final curtain call – what should you cherish most? Because life isn’t about tallying a score of all the achievements you can accomplish in a hurry. Will you be most grateful for family, or for time spent with someone you love, or will you only hope to have moments where time just slips away. Like times where you’re numb and don’t feel much of anything?
I would fear that many of our priorities are misallocated. Our generation has a much higher emphasis on instantaneous self gratification. To our disadvantage, we too readily believe that the world should be available to us this very moment in it’s entirety. In the process, we fail to cultivate loving, healthy, functioning relationships – or a decent trajectory for our future. We come off as spoiled, needy, arrogant, and impatient. We tend to miss the mark, fueling our narcissism and aiding in our own self destruction. Sometimes the things that take time are the best things for us to have. Why should we rush into love, into a career, into a way of life without thoroughly examining the situation and ourselves?
There are so many things you can do with your life besides trying to speed it up. You should take inventory of yourself and reflect as often as you can. Yes, write and examine the goals you have. Yes, you should celebrate your milestones, and you should always push yourself to stay sharp – to learn – to master – and to excel extraordinarily at some things. Then some nights, while you are reflecting, you should maybe take yourself out of the equation and think about the broader picture in front of you. The meaning of life that you assign to your time on earth; is it legitimate – is it doable – is it preposterous, or impossible? Should it be tweaked? Do you value the same things now as you did one, two, or five years ago?
There’s certainly nothing wrong with feeling like you may be in the wrong direction or in need of a change. The only sin would be in knowing you should change course, but then doing nothing about it. To continue doing what you’ve always done, just because you’ve always done it – when it’s detrimental to your health, relationships, or financial well being. Those sins are less forgiving because they ultimately sit with you. You know if you are staying true to yourself. To thine own self be true. You know if what you are doing no longer works, and it will be up to you to change course if necessary. I would never make claim to having done something correctly, the way it needed to be done the first time and every time there after. As a student of life, I have made many mistakes – but my intention is never to make the same mistakes twice.
Life is like an endurance race. It’s not about who makes it the fastest. Sometimes you need to pull over, check your map, check your blueprint, adjust your sails, change your course, take your time, and be sure that you’re doing everything you possibly can to arrive alive and well.